After reading the book Daring Greatly by Dr. Brene Brown, the topic that just stuck to me was scarcity and never enough. I am always saying I don't have enough time to: sleep, workout, relax, study, and practice selfcare. The only thing I would get out of saying these would be me just staring at a wall when I finally get some time to rest.
I am very hard on myself because of this lack of time and I find it hard to own up to my vulnerabilities. I do compare myself to others a lot especially when it comes to graduating. Many of my peers from highschool had already got their bachelors. I even started to doubt myself and think I wasn't smart enough or hard working enough. I know I'm still young and I am only slower than them by 1 year; it's a struggle to fight off the feminine urge to have your whole life put together by the time you're 25. I hate being vulnerable with a passion because even sharing a bit of my emotions is embarrassing. Even writing this post was too much for me. I am working on this though and the book was a great addition to my growth.
Her ideas are able to be applied to persistence in STEM by understanding people are feeling the same way you do. That it is important to own your vulnerability. Being a perfectionist looks great but in the end you're just stopping growth and opportunities. Instead it's okay to try hard and put yourself out there even if you're unsure of the outcome of your work.
